I’m Stina, and I really love to have fun.
Y’know for a long time I kinda thought that made me a bad person.
Inside my head were all these ideas about the value of hard work and being responsible. I thought that mature, grown-up people put aside their own feelings and did what needed to be done.
Motherhood seemed like such a monumental responsibility. Taking on the authority of an entire person’s whole life was so huge. You have to think about their nutrition, hygiene, emotional development, social development, spiritual development, their mindset on themselves and the world around them and oh, yeah, potty training.
I took my role as a mom VERY seriously, and still do. There’s not an aspect of my children’s development that I don’t think about…at least if there is, I don’t know about it yet, but if you’ll just show me the right book, I’ll read it and obsess about that too.
With all this responsibility on me now, I worried that fun just wasn’t going to be a part of the mix.
But something about that never quit sat right with me.
I knew in my soul that a no-fun mom was not good for my kids or myself.
I knew that the best way to be a great mom for them was to be me…the real me.
What if I could be responsible, do good work AND have a lot of fun?
I truly believe the same for you too.
Maybe you’re a mom who wants to be having more fun. Maybe you’re like me and feel ashamed of that desire because moms should be responsible.
Or maybe you’re naturally a no-nonsense type mom and letting loose and playing with your kids seems weird. That’s okay too.
I believe that the most important thing you can do for your children is to grow a relationship with them.
They already LOVE you and they just want to hang out with you. They don’t care if you like trying on lipstick or balancing spreadsheets. If you think it’s cool, they’ll appreciate that too.
The point is, being a Fun Mom means doing what’s fun for you and raising kids you actually want to hang out with!
I’m a thirty-something mom of 4 really awesome kids. They’re legitimately my favorite people in the world to hang out with. They crack me up and inspire me. We have SO MUCH FUN together.
Sometimes when women become moms, they miss their old lives, they feel disconnected from their former (childless) friends. So I’ve heard.
I didn’t really experience that because my story went a little differently.
I got married between junior and senior year of college. Just 10 months after we started dating, I moved from a dorm (they called it an apartment, but it was on campus and only kids from our conservative college could live there) into a small house with my college-sweetheart, now husband.
Eight months after our wedding, I graduated with a bachelors in interior design and a baby in my belly. I was thrilled, but it wasn’t the way I’d expected life to go.
I’d always planned to be a stay-at-home mom, but I had expected to start a career after graduation, not a family. Though it was a turn of events, I still consider it the greatest thing to happen for our family. Yes, our life changed, but oh my goodness, that little girl!
The funny thing about becoming a mom when you’re just becoming an adult is that you don’t really even know who you are as a woman yet.
I didn’t have Girl’s Night Out or chats over cocktails with my friends as we went through our 20’s and learned who we were.
I found my womanhood and my motherhood all at once.
One of the most important days of my life was the day that changed my whole perspective on motherhood. You can read the whole story here.
That day, I realized that the most important thing I could do for my child’s future was to connect to her heart. If I had her heart, I could always influence her, but if I only controlled her behavior, I could lose her when she grew up.
Now, that little girl is a teenager, and I’m just beginning to really see the fruits of that relationship change developing. Yes, we talk about all the important teen learning experiences (YES!!), but we also sing along to the same songs, reference memes together, and laugh at the same television shows.
And we’ve got 3 other kids too! High school, middle school, elementary school, and kindergarten. Our pediatrician jokes that I won’t let one grow up before I have to add another. They’re just so fun to make!
On this blog, I share all the ways we live out life together by my principles:
- If it’s got to be done, make it more fun!
kidsadults you actually like to hang out with by focusing on relationship first, then character training.
- You’re a woman first. Mom just means being the amazing woman you are with some future adults.